MY EXPERIENCE

Everyone has their unforgettable moments to share with. Everything that happens has own reasons for us as a human beings to think for a while during walked in this world. We have a happiness and sadness time however by the positive thinking we can change it into something better in the future. The old people said experience will teach you better in the future. Besides we can be a better person in life than before.

Everything was started here. My name is Nor Hakiyah Abd Karim. I was born on 27 may 1989. Now, I am 21 years old. This is means I am a big girl now. People said in this kind of age that person are matured and can make her or his own decision. I am always confidence in whatever myself do. I am an independent girl with a higher expectation in whatever cases.

Furthermore, with a lot of experience in life it teaches me how to more appreciate this life. I have tried the best to give the best and so far I am truly like with my way. The memories will still remains. Since kids until became an adult I am already through so many things that reminds me who I am. When I was a kid, I am stayed at Parit 10 sekinchan Selangor. That place are so calmness and peaceful. There is a lot of memorable things came out from my mind. I was a naughty little girl that always made trouble to my loving mother. With the super active body I go to “sawah” and play around there. There is a “parit” that has a lot of “kangkung” vegetable. Every evening, I will go there and take that vegetable for my mother to cook. Also, the fishes are easy to find and usually my brother will bring a lot of “ikan keli” to cooked as “masak lemak cili api”. It is very delicious and the whole family very likes it.

I have elder brother which is his very like to make “sampan”. By using that thing, my brother can go to the “Parit” or rivers easily to catch the fishes or seafood and bring home. My family loves seafood, we are very lucky because nearing with the sea and can get the fresh seafood from the fisherman.

The best thing stayed at village like this is you can take a fresh air and playing with the fresh water from the “kelincir air”. I would like to play it because the water is not in deep and we can play with the safety. My mother always shouted and called me back home because our house with that place is quick nearly. Every time she is shouted I must hiding myself so that she will not angry at me. My mother was a solder just like my father. Unfortunately, none of my siblings are followed their steps into that solder world.

My father very loves his daughter rather than his son. My mother told me it is because since the first born his really wants daughter unlucky his got son until the third born his still got son. He was very upset. Alhamdullillah, finally his got daughter but not only that but twins! And do not shock because it was me. Yes I am twin. He is very happy.

However, live at sekinchan was over when my father took a decision to go back to his home town in Hulu Langat Selangor. During that time, my age was only 7 years old and it is my first day to go to the school. My father took me at the school and he said to me we will go to sightseeing. When arrived at home, I saw all the house things for instance furniture and so on at outside and have a big lorry waiting to take all the things. No one answer me when I asked where the whole family will go. Thus, I am just sitting at the side house and waiting what will happen. My best friend is coming up and saying a good bye. I do not understand what does it means. When entering a car then I know what is going on. We are moving on to another place.

My brother is very upset because he does not want to leave the village. There are a lot of friends that he had to leave and live in a new place are something weird and dislike to the kid who are grown up that time. My brother very love friends. When we already arrived in Hulu Langat, my brother started doing bad behavior like sulking all the times and does not want to talk with my father.

Actually, I do not like my grandfather which is side of father. Every time I saw him, I felt hating and his always like to play with my stomach because he said that my stomach is small and he wants to put a lot of food so that I will be fat. He will touch it by using his crosier. I like to hide myself so that he will not see me. I do not like to play with him at all. I felt annoying because of his habit. My family thinks that it is because I am afraid on him. But sometimes I felt like I do. Might be I cannot accept that I am the only granddaughter that his like.

Time by time my siblings can adapt with the new environment nicely. We made friends and slowly I forgot the life in Sekinchan. Besides, with the very young age during that time, not so many things that I can remember but the memory playing at “sawah” still strong in my mind. But that village changed a lot and the feelings are not same anymore when I go back there seven years ago. The color of the “parit” is very dark and scared whoever seen it. The house that we leave damaged so badly. No one took care of it. My father does not want to go back there because he has a fight with my mother siblings. Hence, he is order to my mother to do not go there anymore. Before my father passed away, he is given the permission if my mother wants to visit her village. Then, I know the surroundings are not as the same as before.

Next, we go to the time when I grow up. Childhood memories are special for everyone. I have a very happy memory of my childhood and always reminisce it with nostalgia. I was born and brought up in a small family which included my mother, father, twin, and my elder brother. I have very fond memories of us brother playing in our backyard, climbing trees to pluck fruits, going to parks and beaches and enjoying life in general. Of all the memories, one particular memory is very important and taught me the importance of saving money. This experience teaches me how meaningful this life.

One summer, my brother was suddenly taken ill. He had to be hospitalized and the doctors advised us that he needed an emergency surgery. The surgery was very costly. My mother did not earn a very high salary and it was very difficult for us to raise that amount of money suddenly. Luckily, my mother had a habit of saving small amount of money regularly. This money was not touched but kept aside in case of emergencies. This amount turned out to be the exact amount required for the surgery and recuperation of my brother.

We were helped by the good habit of saving practiced by my mother. Before this incident, I was a spendthrift and use to spend all of my pocket money. This incident changed my way of thinking. I started to save even a little bit from my pocket money. I took to heart the saying, "Little drops of water makes the mighty ocean." untill today, I save money in whatever way I can. I have impressed upon my friends the importance of saving money and have got them to do the same.

Moreover, I was remembering the time entering kindergarten. The scariest thing for many kids at the age of five, is attending to kindergarten the first day of school. The terror for them is the ugliest feeling because they are going to be separated from their parents, and they ignore the unknown without them. After attending, and get to know every kid, they change their mind. I remember when I was ready to attend the first day to kindergarten, I was very nervous and scared. My mom was very happy, for her it was like seeing her daughter giving a big step in life, and ready to confront a new challenge. A day before, my mom was giving me lots of advices for me to get prepared.

On that early in the morning, I was wearing a blue dress with black shoes. The morning was very long. I could not stop thinking about being separated from my mom, toys, and friends, for lots of hours. I realized that I was not the only one crying in the classroom and get even more scared. I was mad and sad at the same time because she let go of me. The teacher stared introducing her self, she sounded very sweet and made all of us put attention to her because she was also funny.

It was almost a time, my mom walked me to the door of the classroom, but I could not hold it more and stared crying then running like crazy in the halls. I felt and stared screaming that I do not wanted to stay there. But any of her advices change my thoughts. Even if is the scariest thing for many kids at the age of five, "like it was for me". I was mad and sad with my mom, but now I thank her because she made me realize that I have to confront life and that I was wrong about the unknown.

The first thing we played was following a song, it was fun because I made lots of friends, I do not missed my mom no more and wanted to stay there playing for lots of hours. In conclusion, the first day of kindergarten is my favorite childhood memory. My mom was very mad because of the way I was acting and she made me stay there.

High school is said to unforgettable years. They can be positive, negative, or a combination of both. Most of us experience both positive and negative situations. There can be drastic changes from middle school to high school. In any case, these are trials we all must go through, tests that can affect future decisions.

On the other contrary, high school is a strange time. After eight years of trying to develop identity and friends in the elementary and middle school, students are expected to mature immediately on the very first day. Unfortunately, my “maturity” did not arrive when expected. I never fully realized in the earlier grades how important high school success is. However, I still feel that change is always an option. I have learned and I am learning still, both through observations and personal experiences.

It all started with netball. I felt that my position on GD (Gol Defense) was unacceptable. I considered myself to be irreplaceable and took GD netball for granted. I mouthed off to the coaches, skipped practice, ignored the other players and did whatever I pleased thinking nothing of the consequences.

By the second game, my coaches took notice to my direct negativity and disrespect. As a punishment, they did not start me at our third game. In fact, I was benched for almost the whole time. Without maturity, I yelled at the coaches, blatantly insulting their authority. To reprimand my inexcusable behavior, I was thrown off the team. I had never been kicked off of anything in my life and at first all I felt was negativity, anger and indifference towards everything in my life. Now that I think about it, that tiny event almost led me a path of permanent destruction. I lacked in my schoolwork, acted out and not really caring about how this may affect my future and carrier.

Thankful the God still loved me. People can change from the bad to the good things. I am changes a lot. When my father passed away, I realized as human beings we will die one day and the bad attitude never let other people like us. Might be when we are dying, no one will coming because nobody likes to make friend with you. I regret with what I have done and started changed myself.

There are some things to take into consideration which can help make high school a bit more enjoyable. One tip I can give you is to get involved especially to those who does not like to go to the school joining whether it is athletics, band, and clubs. It will make the difference. It can be an extra incentive for coming to school. It is important that academics do not take over your life. This will also help you when applying for colleges or jobs after high school. In order to participate in most of these activities, you will be an excellent student not only from academic purpose but also co-curriculum.

Furthermore, my past 3 years of Diploma level has been great. I have learned many valuable skills and made many valuable friends. Now I know what I would really like to be and do in my life. The subject that I really interested in is Journalism. This will be my career because I really enjoy reporting and writing. I have more confidence in completing this career because my greatest strengths are knowledgeable, problem solving, and creativity. Combining all three strengths together, I can make a great news reporting. However, by doing so, I must develop more qualities for myself. These qualities include one of the most important things in life, teamwork. Therefore, I still have a long way to learn and achieved it.

Continuing a diploma in UiTM Malacca is an interesting life story to be shared. In other part, while in the second semester (DMC2K) we all hold holiday in Port Dickson to spend time with fellow classmates. The purpose was to strengthen the relationship between us. The trip was planned by a friend of mine named Azrul and assisted by Azfa as finance. Each person must pay RM50 to support themselves during the holidays. For two days we spent one night in Apartment at Port Dickson (PD) with a reasonable price. The first activity that we started was swim in the swimming pool near apartment. Variety swim styles are highlighted by other friends while I was playing with little girl in a small pool. She was a cute girl and attracts me to join her.

At night, we started barbeque activities on the beach. The foods that we provide for the fuel are shellfish, chicken, hotdog and corn. Salads are also provided by several female friends. I was assigned to go to the store to buy mayonnaise. First time I was given the opportunity to burn the seafood by myself. With all the strength there, I have managed to flutter coal to produce a large fire. Everyone give applause to me. I certainly take pride in the achievements of the highlights.

At night, we enjoy a meal with appetite and pleasure. Soft wind blowing add the peace of the night, however too many food that can not be spent. We have taken the initiative to give it to people who are also visiting the beach. They are happy to receive food from us. Rather than wasted better given to the person to be eaten.

After the dinner had finished, we found that water of the sea has started receding. Then we decided to walk up to the middle of the ocean because the sea of water is only under knee. It was an amazing experience that I had. We are running all the way together and had fun with it. We see the stars and calculate it to make fun. Our all over body filled with sand of the ocean. Then we go back to the land and take a rest before returning to the apartment.

By arrival to the land, suddenly we found two drunken Chinese man next to where we barbeque. Then there is only one man among us which is female students and he was “pondan”. At first, nothing happened, suddenly two drunken Chinese men make noise, and while pointing to me and wanted to sign with them. Strange feelings came up because I am not sexy and dress modestly, while others more beautiful and sexy than me. The question is why they chose me at the same time I am also felt impressed toward myself.

On the other hand, quickly our male friends just now scolded two drunken Chinese men to do not disturb us, especially me. But not ignored by them. My friends decided I need to return to the room to prevent unwanted. The fear in myself is begins. I go fast and leave the beach. I sleep early on that night, suddenly my body freezing because it is too cool and I did not wearing the blanket. Everyone panicked after seen myself like that. One of my friends gives the sweater hoping that I will be alright. Then, they bring me out to get a hot drink. Later, I feel better. We stay at that shop until 4o’clock.

Tomorrow morning, after breakfast, around 11 o’clock we are started packing up to go back to UITM. But before that, we had planned to play a game at the beach. We stop at the road side and buy “durian” to eat together. It is very sweet memory. The situation became much happier when the game started. We play just like a kid. We called that game as “baling selipar”. After we finished, we take a rest then go and buy some souvenirs as symbolize that we have been there.

I love the event that entering in our daily life because we will be a better person through the experience. We know what should and should not do. We know how to make a good decision. We know the meaning of life. We know how to appreciate every single thing so that we would not regret soon.